This week, the word, CONFIDENCE, has been what I have focused on. I posted on my IG, @thebookofalesha, how being a mom of girls really forced me to look at myself so that I am walking what I am talking. In my younger days, I battled issues with my self-esteem. I felt confident in some of my abilities but doubted myself in others. For example, I was a cheerleader in high school. I know it was something I was good at, therefore my confidence in myself while cheering was high. I was also rather nerdy and smart, so I was always confident in my ability to pass tests. However, I struggled with self-image and because I was a bit eccentric, I was paranoid that my personality was NOT always relatable. Now, as a woman, I have become more comfortable in my skin, and I want to make sure that I am always displaying this for my girls. My goal in raising them has always been to make sure I nurture their self-esteem and teach them how to be confident in the abilities that God has gifted them with, despite how others may feel or think about them. In order for me to do that, I had to make sure I was walking the walk and not just talking the talk. Here are a few ways that have helped me with building my confidence.
1. I make sure I am always aware of what I am telling myself and challenge any thoughts that do not align with what God says about me.
2. I give myself grace, and do not beat myself up about things I cannot control.
3. I make sure I am not taking myself too seriously all the time and remember to have fun!!
4. I practice courageous faith. (This has created a confidence that is unexplainable).
5. I trust the process and know that all that happens is in divine order. God will NEVER fail us.
When I practice these things and love on myself. It teaches my girls to do the same.
Some may ask, how does practicing faith and trusting the process build confidence? Well, when you know that Your creator has plans to prosper you (Jeremiah 29:11), why wouldn’t you be confident? All of who you are was made to fulfill His divine purpose so why doubt it? Your job is to live your life, nurture your gifts, and seek God for His guidance to fulfill the promise. Makes sense? Hope so! Be blessed, y’all!