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I have come to realize that when it comes to my relationship with God, I am controlling! The crazy thing is, I am not a controlling person. I have always been easy going and tend to go along with the flow.  Mainly because I am easy to please and would rather maintain common ground.  However, I have learned that I struggle with some things spiritually because I haven’t learned to do the same when it comes to my relationship with Him.   

My goal for the past few years has been to develop a stronger relationship with God.  Lately, I found myself asking God to reveal things to me that I need to change.  I wanted to know what I may have been doing, unknowingly, that was blocking my blessings, and what was hindering me from being closer to Him.  Well, I recently realized it was my inability to just move and get out of the way!  I had to check myself.  I looked back on several moments in my life where I struggled the most and desperately reached out to Him in hopes of peace and deliverance.  I saw that these were usually moments where I had inadvertently gotten in the way of His work.  What would happen is, something happens, I worry, I fear, I get depressed, then I call on Him to ease my pain.  Most of the time, I found myself depressed and sad because I had been trying to take matters in my own hands. For instance, I would pray to God for His help and tell myself, I am surrendering it to Him, when honestly, I am not.  I call myself patiently waiting to be delivered from whatever it is, but in reality, I hold on to it, not fully trusting God to handle it.  I try to control how and when I want to be blessed.  I give it over to Him, then I take it back, give it over, take it back. Same cycle over and over, again. Why is that?

It hadn’t dawned on me that I do this, until I recently got a promotion from at my job.  Long story short, I felt as though I was overlooked, overworked, and underpaid.  I didn’t feel I was being treated fairly and saw other people progressing when I wasn’t. On top of that, I got a new boss that I wasn’t clicking with.  There is nothing worse than having a boss that you clash with. After months of being miserable, I knew in order for something to give, I had to stop allowing my feelings to overwhelm me. I knew that if I didn’t give it over to God, it will only hinder my growth.  I moved out of the way, and let God have his way.  Once I prayed on it, I didn’t take it back and try to tell Him how to do his job.  I didn’t place Him in a box and pull him out when I needed. I completely surrendered and took my hand out of it.  Result, a promotion. Granted, I complained at times, I was frustrated at times, but I didn’t take it back into my possession, I simply let it go.

I believe, as Christians, we do this a lot.  We pray to God about a problem that we have, but we give Him what we think He can handle and hold on to what we think we can handle. The audacity, right? Maybe we want to be in control of how He blesses us or maybe we just don’t fully trust Him to come through.  I just want to say this, let it go. Move out the way! You are your hinderance.  Don’t trust the same mind that got into your mess to get you out.  You have a savior who is willing to take your burdens so why not give them to Him.  Psalm 91: 1-3 says, ¹ Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.^[a]2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”  ³ Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence.  Look at Him as your friend. The same comfort you find in your friends, the same way you choose to go along with whatever they want to get into it, the same way we confide in friends seeking their advice and expertise should be the same way we feel when we come to God.  Know that He has your back and once we surrender to Him, He will keep His promises.  There is no need to fret and no reason to take it upon ourselves to try and resolve.  Just sit back, relax, and live your life knowing that your cares are casts on one who is the ultimate waymaker!! Be blessed, y’all!

When I was a counselor, I used to teach a Life Skills group. I found myself talking about toxic relationships quite frequently.  I was a drug and alcohol counselor, and some of what we teach is being careful of who you surround yourself with when you are striving for a successful recovery.  I was constantly pointing out the signs of toxic relationships in hopes to help our clients better recognize when they were in one.  Those signs were things like toxic communication, jealously, constant stress, ignoring your needs, patterns of disrespect, and lack of self-care.

It was amazing to see how people never even noticed how unhealthy their relationships were and how it contributed to lack of success in recovery.  This made me want to go further with some clients and ask them to think about why they allowed this and why they remained.  Majority of the time, I realized that they were in toxic relationships not just with their significant other but with THEMSELVES!!!  They didn’t know how to treat themselves, no wonder they didn’t know how they should be treated by others. 

Recently, I found myself pondering on this topic again, and I thought this is not just an issue with the women who were seeking recovery. This seemed to be a theme for most women, in general.   Many of us are in toxic relationships, but with ourselves!! Ask yourself.  Do you engage in toxic communication with yourself?  Do you find yourself filled with feelings of jealousy?  Are you ignoring your needs and have lack of self-care? Are you constantly stressed? If the answer is yes to the questions, then let’s talk about it.  It seems like we spend more time investing in other people (and things) more than we do investing in ourselves which results in us ending up in toxic situations.

I know I am jumping on the “love yourself” train because everyone is preaching this to women all over the world, but so much falls into place in your life when you begin to understand what it means to truly love yourself. I think many women struggle with loving themselves because they do not know what it is or what that looks like. So, I am just here to try and put it simple.  Love is not a feeling, it is a behavior. You can tell how much someone loves someone or something by their behaviors towards it and the time and energy they put into it. So, ask yourself, what I am doing for myself to show me that I love me? What are you saying to yourself? What are you putting your energy into?  Think of what you do when you find yourself crushing on someone you find attractive.  Your main goal is usually to get them to like you as well, so you spend a great deal of time making sure you look good, smell good, say the right things, and show them your best you.  You find out what their interests are and try to become interested in those things as well (or at least pretend to be).  You spend most of the time wanting to be with them and getting to know more about them.  So why not do the same for yourself?  Start crushing on you. Put that same energy into you.  Get to know you.  Who are you? What do you love to do?  How do you like to smell?  What outfit makes you feel good?  Tell yourself the things you want to hear.  Spend time with you!!!  Just as you find that person you are chasing worthy of your time, you, TOO, are worthy of your time, energy, and love.  

Others can tell your love for yourself, by how you present yourself.  Not physically, but in general.  They will listen to how you speak (are you a Debbie Downer?), what you say to yourself, the words you say to others, and even how you deal with stress in your life.  If you are unable to take a compliment, constantly putting yourself (or others) down, speaking negatively or is a pessimist, or always allowing things to get the best of you, you can easily come across as someone who is struggling with loving themselves.  This, then, turns into other toxic traits which will attract toxic situations because trust me, there is always someone just as toxic (or even more) looking for company. Get my drift? 

Sometimes it takes some digging down deep to find out the root cause of your lack of self-love and that may even mean looking into seeing a therapist (and that is great, also). Take the risk and do some self-evaluation. Why is it that you insist on maintaining this toxic relationship with yourself? Is it fear of rejection? Is it the inability to create boundaries? Whatever it is, get to the root of it and get the help you need to resolve it.

Understand that the people you are connected to are a reflection of you and vice versa.  So, start investing in you.  Speak love to yourself.  Set boundaries with people. Stop being so understanding that you begin to allow people to be ok with dismissing or disrespecting you.  Say “NO!” to things that no longer serve you.  Stop being a people pleaser because half the time they aren’t worried about pleasing you!!! Put yourself first, and make sure you are good.  Dance around naked.  Laugh at yourself.  Buy those shoes you like.  Cry in the shower (it frees the soul).  Be ok with your feelings.  Stop taking yourself so seriously.  Be patient.  These are all self-loving behaviors.   When you give yourself the permission to just love on yourself, others will see this and will have no choice but to do the same.  So, I ask again, are you in a toxic relationship? If so, get out and be free!! Be blessed.

Prior to the pandemic, I was going through it. I was numb, irritable, and constantly fatigue. I figured something had to be going on with me physically.  I went to the doctor thinking maybe I had a vitamin D deficiency or any kind of deficiency for that matter, but all the tests came back fine. Which lead the doctor to do a depression screening on me.

Mind you, although I am not practicing, I am a mental health professional by trade, you would have thought that I would have been more aware of any signs and symptoms, but I was so convinced that something was physically wrong that I didn’t think to attribute anything I was experiencing to depression.  As the doctors started asking the screening questions, I fought back tears as I realized the answer to most of the questions was “yes.”  He discussed prescribing some “anti-depressants” but I knew that wasn’t an option I wanted to explore at the moment. (Nothing against them, I just felt as though I wasn’t at a place that I needed medicated assistance especially after only a screening and not a full assessment).  I knew something had to give, and I had to make some serious changes in my life.

I started to think of what all could have been contributing to these feelings. The main theme that kept coming to the surface was stress and lack of self-care.  All my time and energy were going to everyone else but me.  Between work and my family, I just couldn’t seem to find time to just focus on me.  My thoughts, my likes and interests, and my hobbies had taken the back burner, and I wasn’t handling stress very well.  Then, COVID hit, and we were in the midst of pandemic.  I wasn’t sure what would become of it at the time.  I slowly began to realize that as ugly as it seemed to the world, God, was giving us all time to get ourselves together. He shut down EVERYTHING so that all we had was ourselves and Him.  Well, at least, that is my thoughts on the matter.  I remember thinking and feeling like I needed a break, and BOOM, here it was.  I began to work remotely, my daughter was doing virtual learning, and my youngest was no longer going to daycare. At first, it was even more overwhelming, but as the initial shock wore off, I began to settle into a routine and started using the nighttime as my “me time.”  I no longer had to get up early for school, daycare, and work so I took this opportunity to stay up later than usual to reflect on me!!  Besides binge watching, “She Gotta Have It” on Netflix, I began to read my Bible and just journal my thoughts.  I was overwhelmed with all the responsibilities of work, parenting, wifing (pronounced-wife-ing, lol, I know that is not a word), and just life in general and couldn’t find a way to manage it all.  I felt disconnected from God, it was like He had forgotten me. He just left me out here while I was struggling to stay afloat, and my faith was wavering.  I was struggling to find peace.  I was trying to pour out of an empty cup, and nothing was pouring into me.  I had no mental strength and no energy to pull from. 

The more I read and journaled, the more I recognized how toxic my thoughts were and how I had allowed my stress to change my whole spirit.  I had been dealing with it all the wrong way.  I was careless about what I let in my spirit, was constantly complaining, and was putting more energy into things I could not control rather than my faith.  One of the ladies from my sister circle who routinely checks on me kept telling me how the devil was attacking my mind and encouraged me to be aware of my thoughts so that I can change them. After weeks, more like months, of me being intentional about my “me time,” reading the word (and praying), and just getting my thoughts out on paper, I was able to understand if I wanted to see changes in my life, I had to start with the renewing of my mind.  The scripture says, “And be not conformed to this world, but be yet transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  I had to get rid of all of that negative, toxic waste that I was allowing into my mind; the complaining, the frustration, the bitterness, the lack of patience, the negative self-talk, all of the things that were contributing to my overall feelings of depression and being overwhelmed.  If I wanted to be healthy, I had to take care of my mind as well as my body.  They go, hand and hand.  So, I started to make small changes.  I made sure I did more self-care which included telling myself nice things, encouraging myself, looking at the things that I could change and changing them. I became more aware of the aura I was giving off, making sure that it was a positive one; if you didn’t match it, I would keep my distance.  I reminded myself of how blessed I was to have the job that I had when people were getting laid off, left and right. I thought of how blessed my kids were to have at least one parent who can stay at home and work and be with them. I thought of how thankful I was for a husband who didn’t mind doing all the grocery shopping and errands since his work required him to be out anyway.  I thought about all the people I had in my corner who see the beauty in me when I don’t always see it in myself.  I started to see the benefits of everything being shut down. It forced me to have the break and time I needed to get myself together.  You see, my feelings of depression came from my disconnect from God.  I was trying to handle everything on my own because I thought He had forgotten about me. In reality, I had forgotten about Him.  Well not forgotten, but definitely took His goodness for granted.  I got lost in the ways of the world. The world around me was becoming so bitter and ungrateful, and here I was conforming.  He knew that He had to shut some things down for me in order for me to reconnect with Him.  Don’t get me wrong, it can still be a struggle working on this renewing of the mind thing, but thank God I am not in that “pre-COVID” headspace anymore. I can now recognize what was hindering me and make the necessary changes to fix it. So tell me, what did y’all learn from being shut down in 2020??

The year 2020 was so unexpected. It shook up a lot of things in my world and many times, I felt unstable and all over the place. It was important to find things to ease my anxieties and increase my faith. I was determined to maintain my sanity. Below is a list of things that kept me happy and smiling during the year.

Songs

• We Gon’ Be Alright by Tye Tribbett
• Already by Beyoncé
• Brown Skin Girl by Beyoncé
• Good and Loved by Travis Greene
• Nothin Like Your Presence by William McDowell

Albums

• The Book of Mali by Mali Music
• The Hill by Travis Greene
• Worthy by India.Arie
• Love Always Wins by Kem
• Let Love Rule by Ledisi

Movies

• Black is King
• Jingle Jangle
• Soul
• The Devil Wears Prada
• Just Wright

Best Feel Good Moments

• Seeing my Parents in Texas
• Brandy Vs Monica Verzuz
• TikToking with my girls
• Making funny videos of myself, singing to random songs

Books

• We are Going to Need More Wine by Gabrielle Union
• More than Pretty by Erica Campbell
• Church Girls 1 & 2 by Sheridan Davis (currently reading Part 3)
• The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks (haven’t read yet but was inspired by those who did)

Scriptures

• “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ~Jeremiah 29:11
• “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. ~1 Peter 2:9
• “Be still and know that I am God…” ~Psalm 46:10
• “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” ~James 4:7

Social Media Influencers/YouTubers

• MrsKevOnstage–Melissa Fredericks
• Malcolm “MJ” Harris
• KevOnstage
• John Hunt
• Kerwin Claibore
• Kountry Wayne

A closed mouth doesn’t get fed!!! Someone just said that to me, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. See, I was on my weekly prayer call, and we were giving praise reports.  As I was giving my praise report, I mentioned how there was an opportunity that arose for me, but I didn’t have the finances to pursue it.  Desperate, I filled my heart with faith and prayed for some kind of financial blessing. Side note: although I am Christian, raised in the church, I often take for granted my faith and only seek God in crisis. I am working on that!! Moving on, later, I was mentioning to my mother the opportunity, not seeking or expecting financial help, but just sharing with her.  Well, low and behold, without hesitation, she offered me the money I needed to pursue the opportunity. Look at God!

So shortly after sharing this with my prayer sisters, one of the ladies mentioned, “Alesha, a closed mouth don’t get fed!” She went on to explain that you never know how God can/will bless you if you don’t open your mouth and let your request be known.  It was like a lightbulb went off.  (I mean I have heard the saying before but if you are like me, some things just don’t hit home until you are in it!!)  For some reason, I took on this notion that I can handle everything all by myself.  I will run myself to the ground trying to do and be everything and will not open my mouth and say, “I need help!”  I don’t know who told me I had to be superwoman, but they lied.  Doesn’t the good book say you have not because you ask not?  I think somewhere along the line, I felt that asking for help would make me look and feel inadequate. I had this distorted picture of what strong and capable looked like.  Strong looked like superwoman, a woman who does it all on her own.  While trying to find the root of that, I have come up with the reality that asking for help not only makes me feel as if I am not enough, but it also let’s people into my life in a way that I am not used to. Like I have said before, I am an introvert.  I can be very quiet and awkward if I don’t know you well and you are not a part of my family or “inner circle.”  Sometimes having to ask for help would mean reaching out to those who may not be a part of that circle.  When seeking help, especially through prayer, there is a possibility that God will bring people who look nothing like what I am used to. That can be anyone.  I always felt like asking for help will open up the door for friendships or relationships, I am not ready for.  Crazy, huh?  I am realizing how off my thinking is.   In her statement to me, I learned that I have possibly stopped myself from being blessed on many occasions just because I did not open my mouth and say something. 

Self-reflecting, I noticed this has been an unhealthy pattern of mine.  I rarely ask for any help, not just financially, but help in general. I think of all the times I have been offered help with my children, tasks on my job, or even when someone suggests I talk to someone who can help me with important matters, I decline or say I will and then talk myself out of it.  Why? Deep down, I think I don’t believe I am worthy of the help or I question the intentions. There were times where I did swallow my pride and ask for help, but it either didn’t go as I planned or again, I didn’t follow through with the help I requested.  Wow, what a hinderance I have put on my life.  That is why I am truly thankful that I am able to now recognize this and I promise you, I will make every intention to change.

There are plenty of benefits and blessings that come from simply asking for help.  Especially if you are a wife and mother. Listen, these little rugrats can run me ragged, you hear me? I love them to death, and they are my mini queens, but if I am being honest, it takes a lot of energy to parent and rear children.  They are inquisitive, energetic, loud, emotional, dramatic (at least mine are), and require a lot of attention.  It requires a lot to be a wife as well.  It is important to be as attentive and supportive of your spouse as well because they need you too.  Unfortunately for me, I live on the east coast and all my close family live in the south, so it is just the hubs and me.  Sure, we have friends, but for the most part, I have my children majority of the time.  So wife’n and momm’n can be a lot, and if you aren’t careful you will get lost in it.  It can drain you and then you become a person you don’t recognized. Trust me, I know!! I have come to the realization that asking for help keeps you sane and gives you time for other things, especially important things like caring for yourself because don’t nobody want a tired, irritated wife or momma (and yes, I know that was not proper English, but child, I had to say it like I felt it). I am ready to open my mouth and be fed because honestly, my mental health depends on it at this moment. 

Even if you are not yet a wife or a mother, you have to make sure that your mind and body are healthy and strong.  If you put this “superwoman” expectation on yourself, it is grounds for burnout and even some type of breakdown. Truth of the matter is we do not have to do it all.  Ask for help, let people bless you because you may be blocking their blessing by not letting them bless you….well, ain’t that an epiphany?! I’ll say that again, let people bless you! It is a blessing to them to bless you!

Tell me, am I the only one who has suffered from this?  How are you planning to overcome this because giiiirlll, I am tired of blocking my blessings! What about you?  I know for sure that I am going to start making a conscience decision to ask for help! It is a life and death situation. If we continue to think that we have to bear it all, we will slowly die, whether it be mentally, emotionally, or even physically. Stress is a silent killer and many times it can be alleviated if we just open our mouths and allow ourselves to be fed!! Be blessed, y’all!

The term “queen” has been one of those words that we, women, use to encourage one another or to simply use as an affirmation.  It is a constant reminder that you are, as we used to say in the 90s, ALL THAT!  It means being confident and fierce and feeling beautiful inside and out.  For me, it is accepting all imperfections and knowing they don’t make you less beautiful.  It is knowing your worth.

I want to take a step further, however, and get a little spiritual on you.  Queendom is remembering that you are royalty.  It is walking in your light.  One of my favorite scripture says, “But you are a CHOSEN generation, a ROYAL priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” -1 Peter 2:9 NKJV.  See ladies, you were born into this queendom. My favorite part of the scripture is, “…called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.”  According to google, light has always been a symbol of holiness, goodness, and wisdom. Darkness means the opposite, sin…despair.  He called us out of sin and despair into goodness giving us wisdom. There is another scripture that says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” -Matthew 5:16 NKJV. Too many women struggle with letting our light shine.  My purpose for building this queendom is so that we can gracefully, fearlessly, and unapologetically walk in our light. 

The problem is our light is our biggest fear.  There is a beautiful passage called Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson, that says (shortened), “…Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” That is the question I want you queens to think about. Who are you not to be?  She goes on to say in this passage, “we are born to manifest the glory of God.”  I have come to realize that we are often our worst enemies. We question our worth? We question our skills? Moms compare themselves to other moms.  Wives compare themselves to other wives.  Single ladies are thinking they aren’t equipped with what they need to get the man of their dreams.  We sell ourselves short because we think less of ourselves, or we compensate for what we think we lack by being there for others more than we are for ourselves just to get their validation. Giiiirrrllll, all that is draining.  It soaks your energy and clouds your mind.

Women are multi-faceted individuals, meaning having different sides to them.  Sometimes we allow those many different things to pull us in all different directions. We, then, begin to lose ourselves; but here is some more google knowledge for you.  Diamonds are usually cut to be multifaceted to increase their ability to reflect light.  Diamonds are considered the most precious and enduring of gemstones. They also symbolize light.  Think of how precious God must have considered us to treat us as if we are diamonds.  Molding us, sculpting us, and shaping us to increase our ability to reflect light.  Every experience, emotion, heartache, trial, upset, etc. has been perfectly orchestrated to improve our quality and to glorify Him. We were meant to shine, so why are we constantly dimming or shrinking ourselves trying to stay hidden?    

Queendom is a state of mind, it is a lifestyle. It is getting up every day, holding your head up, and walking in your light.  I am a strong believer in the law of attraction. The energy you exude will be the energy you receive.  When you live each day fully aware of all of who you are, and you know what you bring to the table, you will attract things and people that will be representative of that.  When you start believing and seeing yourself as the queen you are, you will start attracting royalty. Of course, not in the literally sense, but in the spiritual sense.  You start aligning with like-minded and spirited people that will be beneficial to your mental, emotional, and spiritual growth.

So, power to the chosen people! It serves you no good to downplay your royal goodness nor does it serve any good to the people around you and all that you touch.  Look at yourself and recognized who you are and own it! YOU ARE LIGHT! YOU ARE ROYALTY!  YOU ARE A QUEEN!  Hold your head high, arch that back, and walk in it.  You have a Queendom to maintain.  Welcome to Queendom Come!!!

You may have read the “About Me” page of Queendom Come, but here is where I go into a little more details about me. Soooo, 6 years ago it was placed on my heart to create a blog. I was 30 years old and was experiencing so much growth and maturity that I wanted to share my journey.  I created a “starter blog” to get started and get my creative juices flowing, and I inconsistently maintained that blog for 3 years until I just allowed life to consume all my time and creativity.  I no longer felt inspired, and I think I fell into a functioning state of depression.  I will get to that in a future post, but in a nutshell, I just walked around existing not living, mental survival.  Now, here I am again ready to take a huge of leap of faith and get this ball rolling again.  It has continued to be a burning desire in my heart, and I have made the connection that perhaps, it is my purpose.  Who knows? I won’t know until I do it, right? I have been encouraged to step out on faith and trust that what is meant to be, will be. HE has equipped me with all I need to be successful. All I need to do is trust the process.  I have gained more knowledge and insight to so many things so why not use it, right? Well again, I began to think, what would be the purpose? What would I talk about? What would I call it? Actually, as I began to share my desires with trusted individuals, these were legitimate questions that I was asked, and it made me realize I needed to be serious about this and cannot go into this lackadaisically. So, I started to think about where I struggled the most and what advice I would have needed in times that I was lost and confused.  It led me to this: Queendom Come.  I wanted to create a haven for women to grow into the women we were destined to be. Not because of any titles we may have inherited but because of what we have been gifted with.  Whatever that may be. I am beginning this journey to reach my highest potential and wanted to encourage a tribe of women doing the same.

So, ahem! Let me re-introduce myself. I am Alesha, and I am a wife and mother of 2 girls.  The idea of this blog came simply because I started to realize I was losing myself in mommyhood and wifey-hood (yes, I constantly make up words). I found myself asking, who are you? What have you become? It was like all of my interests and desires where dwindling. All of who I was, was wrapped up in who and how I was as a mother and wife. I am learning the importance of maintaining my identity as Alesha. It has been a journey that I plan to document as I navigate my way through this world and hopefully you guys join me for the ride.

Ok, so more about me. I have degrees in Psychology and Counseling and have several credentials behind my name, but that is not important right now, or is it, hmm? Nah, not really. Anyway, I consider myself a little bit of everything hence the different nicknames I give myself. I am down to earth and can be somewhat of a “free spirit.” I march to the beat of my own drum at times, and I am ok with that.  I am not one to be into whatever is “trending.” As a matter of fact, I am usually late and lost when it comes to what is happening in today’s world. For instance, I know very little about the latest music and artists, movies, fashion trends, sports, etc.  Don’t get me wrong, I am open to schooling myself or being “put on” to some things (especially music), but my friends and family already know, I’m clueless half the time. Quite frankly, I’m ok with that too.  I am happiest when I can be myself unfiltered and that means even in my clueless moments. I am who I am!  I am introvert so people sometimes see me as shy, timid, and/or uninteresting.  Whatever the case, I see myself, as a little bit of everything.  My roots are in Louisiana, but I grew up in Texas so there are mixtures of different influences that live in me.  I am definitely flawed (aren’t we all?). I consider myself a “beautiful mess.” There are many things that I am constantly working on, but that’s the beauty of life.

I love many things, like shopping, reading, shopping, writing, did I mention shopping? Ok, you get the point, but really, the one thing that always soothes my soul is music. As a child growing up, I wanted to be a singer. I LOVED Whitney Houston and thought one day I would be a star like her. Needless to say, I just didn’t have the “Whitney” talent. Anywho, I ended up on a different path. I was a counselor for 6 ½ years of my life and still uphold some of my credentials but have stepped into a different career path at the moment. However, I loved being a counselor and still love all things healing and healthy.

Overall, I think I am a pretty, cool woman.  I am attempting to live life on purpose. As I grow spiritually, I gain more knowledge and understanding of manifesting my destiny and aligning with His will.  I am learning to be more intentional with my actions and not letting life pass me by.  Therefore, I am not at a “final destination” yet because I don’t think that place exists.  I think true happiness and peace is a lifestyle. It’s a journey. It’s experience after experience. So, through this blog, I hope to empower and encourage others by sharing my stories, little snippets of my life, my inspirations, my knowledge, and any wisdom I have gained through my life’s journey that may help others.  I hope you are ready to join this Queendom of fierce women. Here’s to re-launching this thing…Let’s go!!!