So, I am coming to the end of my momming and queening series. Last week, I had to take a break. The funny this, my children are away with my parents so I thought I would be able to relax and knock some stuff out, but goodness, tell me why I felt even more anxious. I was coming out of week of dance recital preparations, end of the school year, parties, birthdays for mom and daughter, and promotion for THE COURAGE TO BE FREE (another best seller, thank you!) project. Then, the coauthors of the MOMMING AND QUEENING anthology and I started our best seller campaign where we launch the Pre-orders for the Kindle for Amazon, (again, another #1 best seller on Amazon, by the way), work seemed stressful, people were irritating me, and I couldn’t seem to relax. My mind was constantly thinking of all the things I needed to accomplish. Not to mention, I had prepared to go out of town with my husband for Father’s Day weekend, and I couldn’t see how I was going to accomplish the goals I set. It was a lot and honestly, I needed a break, but because I didn’t want to be selfish while preparing for Father’s day weekend, I literally just had to suck it up; but sucking it up can drain your energy and definitely messes with your mental health. So, in the process of sucking it up, I started to think of positive things to say to myself to overcome my feelings of being overwhelmed. Some of the things I started to tell myself were, “Alesha, you are human. You are not superwoman. You have to learn to not beat yourself up. Relax. It is ok. Stop feeling like you have to do EVERYTHING!” As I started to say these things, I also began to say short prayers and listen to gospel to shift my mood and mindset. Surprisingly, it helped. I thought of how as moms, we need to practice the art of affirming ourselves. Granted, my children are away, and my mommy duties aren’t as stressful, but sometimes it is hard to get out of mommy mode and focus on the present moment. That was why I couldn’t relax. I couldn’t fathom that I could actually give myself a break. So, I googled some affirmations that I thought would be helpful to us, mamas and that I would share. Here are a few that I thought would be easy to memorize.
- I will make the most of my day.
- In the eyes, mind and heart of my child, I am a good mom.
- I am loved.
- All is well. They are well, and I am well.
- Taking care of myself makes me a better mom. I give myself permission to nurture ME.
- I am the exact parent my child needs to prosper.
- There is peace and love in my home, even in the midst of chaos.
- My family appreciates and loves me, even when they forget to tell me so.
- I am letting go of any guilt weighing on my shoulders. I am not perfect, but I am what my child needs.
- I will love fiercely, laugh freely and live courageously.
- One bad day does not make me a bad mom. One bad day makes me human.
- Though these times are difficult, they are only a short phase of life. This too shall pass.
- I am enough.
- I trust my intuition.
- I am brave, strong, and courageous.
I also would like to share a few bible scriptures with you that helps me when I need a pick me up. I hope they do the same for you….
Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
John 16:33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Psalm 121:1-2 I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.
Be blessed, mama!! You got this!